You cannot afford the luxury of lies, denial or defensiveness. It's what you do that determines the script of your life. Measure yourself and others based on results — not intentions or words. Decide that you are worth the risk of taking action, and that your dreams are not to be sold out. Know that putting yourself at risk may be scary, but it will be worth it. You must leave behind the comfortable and familiar if you are to move onward and upward. You know and experience this world only through the perceptions that you create.
You have the ability to choose how you perceive any event in your life, and you exercise this power of choice in every circumstance, every day of your life. No matter what the situation, you choose your reaction, assigning meaning and value to an event. You are a life manager, and your objective is to actively manage your life in a way that generates high-quality results.
You are your own most important resource for making your life work. Success is a moving target that must be tracked and continually pursued. Effective life management means you need to require more of yourself in your grooming, self-control, emotional management, interaction with others, work performance, dealing with fear, and in every other category you can think of. You must approach this task with the most intense commitment, direction and urgency you can muster. You either teach people to treat you with dignity and respect, or you don't.
This means you are partly responsible for the mistreatment that you get at the hands of someone else. You shape others' behavior when you teach them what they can get away with and what they cannot. Hate, anger and resentment are destructive, eating away at the heart and soul of the person who carries them. Forgiveness is not about another person who has transgressed against you; it is about you. Forgiveness is about doing whatever it takes to preserve the power to create your own emotional state.
It is a gift to yourself and it frees you. Not knowing what you want — from your major life goals to your day-to-day desires — is not OK. The most you'll ever get is what you ask for. If you don't even know what it is that you want, then you can't even ask for it. You also won't even know if you get there! By being specific in defining your goal, the choices you make along the way will be more goal-directed.
You will recognize which behaviors and choices support your goals — and which do not. You will know when you are heading toward your goal, and when you are off track. Now for our question of the day. Of the 10 laws, which ones do you consider the most important?
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Please Register or Login to post new comment. Take the Self Improvement Tour. Lists with This Book. Nov 29, Lucille Zimmerman rated it it was amazing Shelves: He said he wrote the book because he wanted to warn his granddaughters about the real evils in the world, and he wanted to give them life strategies for success and happiness.
I agree with another reviewer who said Dr. Phil spent too much time in the first chapter, telling you what he was going to teach you. I wanted to dive in; I was frustrated to get to the good stuff, but once the book got rolling, it had me in its grip. In I saw Dr. In the first half of the book, Dr. Phil teaches about the bad guys—how to spot and defeat them. As a Licensed Professional Counselor, I immediately recognized he was referring to certain personality disordered individuals—sociopaths, narcissists, and borderlines—without calling them that.
Christians might have a problem with this, seeing every person as redeemable, but the truth is—and Dr. Phil compels readers to understand—is that there really are bad people in the world. People who want to cheat, hurt, and steal from you and your loved ones. Of course, these evil people are on a continuum. Not every sociopath wants to molest and kill you. Some just want your money. The point is, these people do not have the ability to empathize like regular folks.
They could care less who they hurt and you need to know these people are very real. Phil describes how he took an inventory of every person who had hurt him in his lifetime. Phil to let down his guard. Once these were analyzed, Dr. Phil saw a clear set of clues that should have been a warning. This book is all about showing readers those red flags.
The second half of the book deals with rules for winning in the world. Phil covers everything from how to stop being a target, to how to behave in an argument. He gives tricks for negotiation, and rules for parenting in the modern world. The best aspect of this book is the real live examples Dr. Everyone would be wise to read this book. Life Code is published by Dr. Dec 18, Jason Holloway rated it it was amazing. This is a great book. I have been reading books on success and life strategies for years. This by far tops them all.
Phil did a great job of simplifying these concepts so that anyone, regardless of education, can really benefit from reading it. It is a "in your face" type of book that throws away all the conventional wisdom about life, parenting, etc. This book may have just changed my life. If you are a fan of Dr.
Phil's brand of wisdom this book is for This is a great book. Phil's brand of wisdom this book is for you. In our modern world you simply can't afford to NOT read this book. Five stars from me! Sep 23, Maggie Boyd rated it it was ok Shelves: A friend recommended this book. It is my first read by Dr. Phil and will probably be my last. It shuffles up old advice that we have all heard before - such as you can't achieve goals till you make goals, have a clear action plan etc.
They are backstabbers, abusers, imposters, takers, exploiters, reckless. I wonder how long it took his team to think up that cute acronym? I think it is probable that people at Dr. Phil's level, living in LA would run into these folks. Middle class folks in the Midwest tend to get screwed over by other middle class folks in the Midwest just trying to get ahead.
They don't look or act like monsters. And frankly, the list of characteristics he gives to those people - you'd have to be pretty sick to have all of them and yet everyone has one or two of the characteristics. Not helpful for me. Jul 04, JoAnne rated it did not like it Recommends it for: I came away with the impression that Dr. Phil either thinks that Americans are stupid, or that they simply cannot think for themselves. My bet is he didn't count on any Canadians reading it.
He comes across as very arrogant, and is so narcissistic that he cannot even see that he is describing himself. One passage that I remember where he says he does not judge people before he gets to know them, but then the scene in the casino, his opinion that he is not surprised the guys wife thinks he is a n I came away with the impression that Dr.
One passage that I remember where he says he does not judge people before he gets to know them, but then the scene in the casino, his opinion that he is not surprised the guys wife thinks he is a no-good s-o-b; is that not passing judgement? Phil's days of drunk and dis-orderly conduct are over. He has never done anything to be ashamed of. Wait, isn't that one of his own rules, is it never your own fault?? My opinion is that this book if fine for people who need someone to give them direction in life, but personally the only reason I think it was ever published is because his son owns the publishing company.
It helps that you have enough money to buy whatever you want as well I guess. For myself, I think I will stick to watching his daytime show, which I do enjoy and would highly recommend. Mar 02, Rob Slaven rated it it was amazing Shelves: Despite that repetitious and kind consideration, I give my unfiltered feedback below. These things take hours to read, after all!
But, in the interest of flinging my net of interests to the furthest reaches of the literary genres, I signed up for this book just, as they say when at sea, for the halibut. So to talk about this book properly one must do so in parts. The first section, about pages or so, goes on at length to describe the people in this world who are, to put it as simply as possible, just plain jerkfaces.
In general I found the whole thing edifying but also not especially practical. For someone out there, this will serve as a valuable guide. The next functional bit, about 80 pages as I count it, amounts to life coaching. In other words, go after what you want but not at any cost whatsoever. This is really a subheading of section two but I think it deserves special consideration since it is a process that is so ubiquitous and misunderstood.
It describes at a high level some of the modern nuances of parenting and how to best deal with these given that the world has changed considerably since we were young-uns as Dr. Phil might put it. Organizationally the book helps with brief, topical chapters and specific quotes highlighted on each page. Well, this is my first exposure to Dr. Phil I don't watch much TV , and I must say I concluded I was listening to an extremely competitive salesman whose head always rules his heart. I, too, look at the world rationally, yet my life is not filled with competition. There is, indeed, SOME competition in my daily life, but MOST of my life is a cooperative venture, and I believe the culture is shifting more in that direction every day.
I do believe, Well, this is my first exposure to Dr. I do believe, however, that some folks most likely those with a highly competitive nature or a particular competitive temporary life struggle might benefit from or be motivated by his words. I would like to see gullible folks be empowered to combat those who seek to commit fraud or worse, and if this book works toward that goal, more power to it. In addition, the parenting advice seems sound, although often unrealistic. View all 4 comments.
May 14, D. I was disappointed in this book. The first part was ok, defining toxic people for us. However, I was disappointed that Dr. Phil didn't make an effort to teach how to distance ourselves from those persons if we already have them in our lives. I imagine he doesn't have any problem doing that but there are others who would like an exit strategy spelled out. The second half of the book was if he was writing a completely different book. In my opinion, he was teaching all of us how to become a clone o I was disappointed in this book.
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In my opinion, he was teaching all of us how to become a clone of himself - goals, aggression, looking out for 1 - similar to those toxic people he spoke about in the first half of the book. A bit confusing, to say the least. Sep 09, Heather rated it did not like it. Typically this is not a book I would read. Since an acquaintance lent it to me and highly recommended it I gave it a chance.
Phil trying to "BAIT" his readers into continuing to read this book by implying that those that don't are average, below the bell curve kinds of people? If you want to be average; if you want to sit in the middle of the bell curve and "receive" rather than "create" what Typically this is not a book I would read. If you want to be average; if you want to sit in the middle of the bell curve and "receive" rather than "create" what comes your way and hope nobody takes it from you--then you can stop reading right now, because this book is not for you.
I will not be bullied by an author into reading a book to try and prove to myself that I am an above average person. I feel that this book feeds on Paranoia and suspicion which is no way to live life. Everyone makes mistakes and hurts others at some point or another--sometimes unintentionally. I wonder how many people Dr. Phil has hurt in his lifetime? I feel it is wrong to classify so many people as Baiters.
This may include categories such as work, social, family, sports, hobbies, religion, romantic, and even online. Then I want you to make a list of the people you routinely encounter in each of those categories What does your gut instinct tell you about each of the people you put on your list? You can categorize them as "safe," "neutral," "suspicious," or "dangerous. To me this book seemed more about validating how someone feels and does nothing to make their life any better.
Phil uses too many emotional words. I will turn to more inspirational reads when I feel the need to empower myself concerning relationships with those around me. Apr 03, Nancy Parish rated it liked it. This is an excellent book. For most people, I'd give it a 5. However, as a mental health professional, it was what we all know already.
I enjoyed reading his process of getting to the organization of his ideas. I am a reality therapist much like Dr. I don't believe I Jung's caring approach to helping people. In this world, people need to hear the truth. Now, I want my children to read it. They will "hear" things better from others than they do from Mom. They still think Mom is just interfe This is an excellent book. They still think Mom is just interfering or bossing or defending. And, I do tend to hold back more with them than with others.
I was disappointed that there was very little learning for me. Otherwise, you go, Dr. Phil, for putting the truth out there in black and white!! Dec 20, Karly H rated it it was amazing. Amazingly honest book about how the real world functions today and how to succeed in it. Really opens your eyes to the people you surround yourself with and how to avoid being taken advantage of, while giving you the tools that'll help you get ahead. Sometimes it's hard to read self-help books, but this is a very easy read as if Dr. Phil is speaking directly to you.
Really opens your eyes to the Amazingly honest book about how the real world functions today and how to succeed in it. Apr 09, Felix Bast rated it did not like it Shelves: I've just completed Philip's this new book audio book version from iTunes store and it's full of negative thoughts! Descriptions of a hundred types of dubious personalities, plain text illustrations of heinous crimes what criminals do, and advising you to stay away from bad people. From page 1 to the last the author is trying to generalize group of "bad people" but in reality and as I strongly believe, you just can't categorize certain people as evil; good or bad are people's d Poor Poor poor.
From page 1 to the last the author is trying to generalize group of "bad people" but in reality and as I strongly believe, you just can't categorize certain people as evil; good or bad are people's deeds, not people themselves! This book is clearly written for American married woman, suggested by numerous examples of 'other woman' trying to seduce "your" husbands, given in the book: Feb 22, Jenny Maloney rated it liked it Shelves: I don't normally do the self-help books, but I saw Dr.
Phil list the "Sweet Sixteen" -- the skill set that winners have -- on one of his shows. And that's basically why I picked this up. On the show Dr. Phil said something that resonated heavily with me, and it's so simple on it's surface: Winners deal with the truth. That translates to so many things: You can't make money if you're not even willing to look at your bank statement.
You're not going to get a promotion if you don't understand how yo I don't normally do the self-help books, but I saw Dr. You're not going to get a promotion if you don't understand how your company works. And that's only one of the sixteen points he lists. Phil delivers other important tidbits throughout and I like how he separates the world as we "want" it to be with the world as it "is. Here is how jerks behave; here is how to behave around the jerks; here is what to do with the jerks BAITERs who are already in your life.
It's not about the jerks and fixing them. It's about how real people should take care of themselves. But I took notes and I'm trying to digest the information presented Nov 03, Sandee rated it did not like it Shelves: