Do you ever think about moving elsewhere? If so, where would you go? Why or why not? Although some research shows that children who relocate a lot struggle with relationships and life satisfaction as adults, in other ways, highly mobile children do just fine. Did moving or staying put help or hurt you? What are the differences between being mobile, stuck, and rooted? What makes someone like Gertie Moore seem more rooted than stuck? In which category would you put yourself?
How well your town makes you happy is in part a product of person-environment fit. Why are walking and biking so popular right now? If you lived close enough to walk or bike to the supermarket or another important local spot, how would it change your experience of your city? Leeson calls this neighborly economics. Or should market forces determine which businesses survive? Would living close to your extended family make you happier?
Why are Americans less neighborly than they used to be? Do you wish you knew your neighbors better, or are you happier being left alone? According to the Knight Soul of the Community study, the three factors that are most influential in creating place attachment are social offerings, aesthetics, and openness. Did anything about this list surprise you? Which of these three elements is most important for you?
In chapter 7, Warnick introduces Brian Mogren and Don Samuels, who chose to move to troubled neighborhoods in Minneapolis. Jul 07, Britany rated it liked it Shelves: Marian Caldwell is a hotshot TV producer living the life in NYC, when one night a knock on her door changes everything. Kirby Rose the most beautiful name! As the book progresses, we flash back and forth between past and present, alternating between the two voices chapter after chapter.
Lighter book, perfect for summer reading. I listened on audio, a 3. I listened on audio, and the narration was spot on! I may have enjoyed this one a little more due to the audio. I was pleasantly happy reading this one and found myself satisfied with the path the author took me down. Dec 13, Jennifer rated it really liked it Shelves: Where We Belong is a standalone, chick-lit novel written by author Emily Giffin. This is the first book I have read by Ms. Giffin and I so enjoyed it.
Where We Belong is a glimpse at how adoption has impacted the biological family, the adoptive family, and most of all the child: It is sensitive and fairly realistic as far as the emotional aspect goes. I enjoyed the complexity of Kirby, I sympathized with the adoptive family and the suspense they undoubtedly endured during Kirby's personal Where We Belong is a standalone, chick-lit novel written by author Emily Giffin. I enjoyed the complexity of Kirby, I sympathized with the adoptive family and the suspense they undoubtedly endured during Kirby's personal journey, and I was entertained by the drama involving the biological parents.
Past and present parallel storylines were featured in this novel and I felt completely engaged in both stories. I admire that Ms. Giffin view spoiler [did not give the biological parents a HEA in regards to the romance element. It doesn't always turn out perfectly, and I think it would have felt a bit too fairy tale-ish if it had. However, I thought things turned out quite well for Kirby, as ultimately, this was her story and her journey. If you think you may enjoy reading adoption through the eyes of a chick-lit writer, then add Where We Belong to your TBR list.
My parents knew nothing about my birth mother, yet always explained with certainty that she didn't "give me up" or "give me away" - she made a plan for me, the best one she could make under her circumstances, whatever those were. Jun 25, Jennifer Hufford rated it it was ok. The story was a bit cliched: Kirby, an adopted daughter the "ugly duckling" of her adopted family seeks her birth mother Marian.
It seemed too easy that Kirby and Marian would strike up an easy friendship, that their relationship would develop so quickly and simply - and that Kirby wouldn't have more anger toward Marian once she sees the lavish life Marian lives as a network television producer in New York City. When together they seek out Kirby's birth father who didn't know he fathered a ch The story was a bit cliched: When together they seek out Kirby's birth father who didn't know he fathered a child , the story fails to bring any real issues, emotion, or substance to the table.
The one character I would've liked to know more about was Kirby's adoptive mother; her side of this story wasn't explored and I could only imagine the discomfort, pain, and worry she must have felt as Kirby sought out her birth parents.
To me, the story of Kirby's adoptive mother would have added a welcome layer of complexity and richness to the novel, and as a mother myself I felt the most for her character. I won't say more, I don't want to give away any plot points. It's well-written and mildly entertaining but neither the plot nor the characters manage any true depth. It's probably a great summer read for those who enjoy a good story without too many complications.
May 15, Eileen Patterson rated it it was amazing. I was ecstatic to receive an advance copy of this book to review, because I really loved Emily Giffin's other two books I read. Also, it's not really both SIDES of a story, just two different perspectives, because whatever Giffin's faults may be, she seems to have a good grasp of empathy and why nothing in love and friendship and human relationship I was ecstatic to receive an advance copy of this book to review, because I really loved Emily Giffin's other two books I read.
Also, it's not really both SIDES of a story, just two different perspectives, because whatever Giffin's faults may be, she seems to have a good grasp of empathy and why nothing in love and friendship and human relationships is as black and white as we sometimes make it out to be. I definitely loved that aspect of her books, but I have to be honest, I couldn't relate to her characters much.
I mean, as a human being with struggles I could relate to them on that level, but I come from a dirt-poor background and somehow seeing a character turn up her nose at earrings from Tiffany's because she didn't like the SHAPE of them kind of made me throw up in my mouth a little bit. That's not to say I don't think that upper class people don't deserve books about their lives and struggles, I do, it's just that I saw Giffin's talent and was hoping that someday she'd try her hand at writing a book with characters I could more easily relate to.
I said all that to say this: Giffin fans rejoice, that day has come!
While Marian is definitely affluent and doesn't worry about money, Kirby and her family are decidedly on the lower end of middle-class, and there's a great exchange where Kirby, an 18 year old adoptee who seeks out Marian, her birth mother, in hopes of building some kind of relationship, returns a bunch of expensive clothes that Marian buys her not because she doesn't like the clothes, but because accepting them makes her uncomfortable.
It's a great moment in the book. It's clear that Marian doesn't know what to do when the baby she gave up for adoption shows up at her door 18 years later. Marian opted to keep her address current with the adoption agency in case the child wanted to contact her someday, so she knew this day might come, but she's still unprepared for the emotions and awkwardness that happen when Kirby, not a child but a young woman, shows up at her apartment one night.
Marian kind of freaks out and does what she's done for a long time when problems have shown up: Marian isn't a bad person, she's a flawed person who has everything she SHOULD want in life but isn't sure why she feels something is missing. She's a successful writer for a television show, she has a doting boyfriend who is equally affluent though he seems unsure about committing to marriage and Marian doesn't really know if these things are what she wants out of life.
As a Natasha Josefowitz poem I once read puts it: Her parents are clearly very loving, in a stable marriage, and they treat their two daughters one adopted, one not as equally as any parent can. If Kirby gets treated differently at all it's not because she's adopted, it's because she's very rebellious and difficult to deal with. She doesn't do drugs or party, but she doesn't apply herself in school even though she could ace most classes if she wanted to, and she rebels against her parents' offer to pay to send her to college because she's not sure what she wants to do in life and she doesn't know if college will help her decide that.
Furthermore, she purposely pushes back against her parents at every turn, picking fights and throwing the fact that she's adopted in their faces because she knows that it will upset them to hear her say that they look down on her because she's not "really their kid," even though she knows this isn't true. I really think Kirby does this because she's a teenager. Her parents try to support her, but they don't understand that things like her love for music are more important to her than good grades, and that this could be a viable career for her because she has talent.
Her parents don't mean to stifle her, they just don't get it, and likewise, Kirby doesn't mean to really hurt her parents, she's just frustrated and confused about her future. Kirby is on the cusp of a huge life change, graduation from high school, and she doesn't know where to go from there, and she takes her frustration and fear out on her parents. She fantasizes about what her birth parents might be like, if that's where she gets her passion for music, if they would understand her better, if finding her "real parents" might help her life make more sense.
In other words, she dreams that the grass might be greener on the other side of the hill because she knows the grass on her side so well and she wonders what else is out there. These characters are vastly different, but when they come together, their interactions teach them both a lot of lessons about love and life and family.
Finding out what really happened back then, and what needs to happen now, forms the plot of this novel, and it was fascinating. I couldn't put it down, honestly, except when I passed out to sleep with the book in my hands because I was exhausted but wanted to keep reading. I highly recommend that fans of Emily Giffin's other books seek this one out, and even those who haven't read Giffin's work in the past might want to give this one a chance.
I had already planned to buy this book when it came out, and getting an advance copy turned out to be a great gift, because I loved this book even more than I thought I would. You made my day not just as a fan of YOUR books but as a fan of all books. Oct 11, Gail rated it liked it.
I'm not sure I ever would have picked up an Emily Giffin book had it not been for this being the September book club pick for my Muncie book club. Prior to now, her work was lumped on that pastel-hued shelf of chick lit authors I'd pass up in favor of other what I considered smarter reads on the bookshelf. For what it's worth, I DID find myself getting sucked into the story: Marian, a something NYC TV producer who has to deal with a knock on the door one night and the presence of a stranger I'm not sure I ever would have picked up an Emily Giffin book had it not been for this being the September book club pick for my Muncie book club.
Marian, a something NYC TV producer who has to deal with a knock on the door one night and the presence of a stranger who turns out to be her long-lost, year-old daughter, Kirby. A daughter she gave up for adoption but never stopped thinking about. There are a few predictable enough plot twists in the book that I don't want to say too much about, only that I became a BIG fan of Conrad.
While the subject material does delve into serious matters, the writing is such that it reads more like a movie script than a serious novel. And that's the thing, I'm sure it already IS a movie in the works. And sheepishly enough, while I didn't care to see her "Something Borrowed" adaptation in theaters which I hear stunk , I might have to see this one. Aug 23, Jill Heather rated it did not like it. Are you not reading this book because the author set her assistant and her fans on the negative reviewers? Don't worry; you're not missing much. The main adult character is another woman who has a high-powered job she doesn't much like and wants a real relationship presumably like EG's other characters, she will quit her job as soon as she marries and has a child.
There's the wrong man! Then there's the right man! Then there's no tension whatsoever. Sep 25, Sarah rated it really liked it. I enjoyed this, ripped through it pretty quickly - it was well-written and entertaining. Despite my enjoyment I shall now proceed to nitpick, whee! The novel was told in the present tense, but peppered with flashbacks, told in the past tense.
This is a bad idea - even if you do get it spot on and I noticed a few times where it didn't it always seems jarring. But it was mainly only in issue in about the first third of the book, where most of the flashbacks happened. The author used the word I enjoyed this, ripped through it pretty quickly - it was well-written and entertaining. The author used the word 'deadpan' or 'deadpanned' quite a lot, occasionally to mean 'saying something in a serious way when it's a joke', but often to just mean 'saying something in a serious way'.
I kept hunting for jokes that weren't there. The plot was a tiny bit predictable. I don't mind a bit of predictability. The ending was a bit up-in-the-air. I felt gypped that we never got to view the inevitable conclusion to all that sexual tension between Marian and Conrad, but on the other hand I can kind of see why the author didn't go there.
Would've made it all just a bit too twee and happily-ever-after, plus it would've dragged out the ending. Nov 12, Courtney rated it did not like it. Baby Proof was a really good book, so I keep reading Giffin's books hoping that another one will come close. I vowed no more after the last "someone cheated, was going to cheat, was forced to cheat" book, but as this one was not about cheating - I relented. It truly astounds me when authors make throwaway comments in their books that add no value or context, but offend part of the audience.
In my case, I did not need to see the term "Hoosier" being used as derogatory. Even if it is p Baby Proof was a really good book, so I keep reading Giffin's books hoping that another one will come close. Even if it is part of St.
Louis slang, it does not belong in a novel with worldwide distribution. It was so unnecessary, too. It did not make the characters more believable or add authenticity in any way. Just was a stupid throwaway description that has officially and permanently taken this author off the list of books that I will read. It even had to be explained that the term was STL slang.
If you have to explain it and it will offend the people reading your book in an entire state, how about if you just say "loser" instead and leave it at that? Yet again, nothing original here and I agree with the reviewers who said a more satisfying ending was definitely needed. The changing perspective kept making me flip back to see who was talking, which got old on the iPad.
Kirby was more annoying to me than she was likely supposed to be and the entire second half went exactly where you thought it would. Nov 08, Shannon leaninglights rated it liked it. Might be hovering somewhere around the 3. What is your favorite Emily Giffin book? Jan 17, Kathryn rated it it was amazing Shelves: Where We Belong was my most anticipated novel this year. Sometimes, anticipated novels don't live up to the expectations you have for a novel you were looking forward to.
Where We Belong was most definitely an exception. I think this is probably Emily Giffin's best novel to date. Even though her fifth novel, Heart of the Matter, is my favorite of her's, this is one story, I think everyone can love, and I think it is tied for first because they are such different stories. I started reading Emily Giffin's novels a year or so ago. I have always had a soft spot for a good, realistic story, which touches you, even if you can't personally relate.
I picked up Giffin's novels because, I have to admit, her color-scheme on her novels caught my eye, and stood out. I resisted because I was in graduate school at the time, and told myself, "Just wait Summer break will be here soon enough, and you can read them.
I found out earlier this year, Emily Giffin was working on a new novel, which would be titled Where We Belong. I didn't know what to expect, except it was about adoption. I bought this novel the day it was released, and finished the book I was reading first before immersing myself in her latest work.
I kept eyeing it on my bookshelf, with it staring at me, and me wondering if it would live up to my expectations of Emily Giffin. It surpassed my expectations, to be honest. When I finished all five of her novels, before Where We Belong was ever in the works , I was left impressed. Having read her novels in the order they were published, I have to say, Emily has really grown into her own. Her writing, for me, is pristine. She describes things just enough, so you have an idea of her characters, the setting, and the story, but as I read her stories, I am capable of imagining the story for myself, and it makes me feel as though I am 'really there' watching the stories unfold.
Where We Belong really shows how far Emily has come into her writing, and more importantly, how much depth she has as a writer.
I was a little skeptical of reading her books because I was afraid they wouldn't have the 'touching story' I long for when I read. She writes stories which make you, or at least they do to me, wonder and think what you would do in that situation. She has a talent for expressing emotions, and making the reader feel the way the characters do. Where We Belong is such a great story. As my Goodreads friend Veronica told me, it is a feel good story. She was exactly right. This is a story about the secrets we keep, and how much they affect others, but also, how they affect the person who keeps them.
But, this is also a story about we are where we are every moment of our lives, even if it is good, bad, pretty, or ugly, because it's, and not to be cliche', where we belong. I will definitely re-read this again. Loved it more than I thought I would! View all 5 comments. Sep 02, Abigail Beckwith rated it it was ok Shelves: I had read Something Borrowed a few years ago, and remembered liking it. So when I was looking for something to read at an airport, I bought the Kindle version of this book. It was okay for a light, quick read, but didn't really grab my attention. Basically, I forgot I had even read it until I heard about the Internet drama regarding Giffin's husband defending her from a 1 star review on Amazon.
Regardless of the drama, Where We Belong starts really slowly. Our main character, Kirby, has an adopt I had read Something Borrowed a few years ago, and remembered liking it. Our main character, Kirby, has an adoptive family that of course! Bio Kid is just like the parents, leaving Kirby to wonder what her parents were like Enter Kirby's search for her Biological Parents. Bio Dad never knew that Marion was pregnant, and is excited to build a relationship with Kirby.
It all just seemed a little Lifetime movie-ish to me, and I just didn't feel emotionally connected to any of the characters particularly shallow Marion whom I actively disliked. When the ending happened, I didn't feel satisfied-- in fact, I originally wondered if my ebook hadn't downloaded all of the way. Nov 02, Tracy Towley rated it did not like it. I picked this up because it was one of the finalists for the GoodReads best of the year books. I don't know who chose those books but I need to have a little chat with them.
Where We Belong was predictable, boring and completely unoriginal. It is the story of an adopted girl turning 18 and finding her birth parents. Every character was honorable and good and always made decisions that were in the best interest of everyone. They had moments of jealousy and a few other human emotions but they qu I picked this up because it was one of the finalists for the GoodReads best of the year books. They had moments of jealousy and a few other human emotions but they quickly quashed those feelings for the good of everyone, which was both unrealistic and boring.
There was a lot of eye-rolling going on over here.
I was not impressed by the author's attempt to write from an year-old girl's point of view and I was not impressed by the author's total lack of faith in her audience. She really loves to over-write dialog and then spend a paragraph explaining what just happened during that dialog. Overall, I would not recommend this book and I can't fathom why it would make it to any list of the 'best-of' books.
Jun 12, Erin Dempsey rated it it was amazing.
I have read all of Giffin's books except for Baby Proof and this was my favorite! Such a great storyline and characters you can't help but love. I highly recommend this one.
If you're feeling down or weak / You can always count on me / I will always pick you up / Nothing's ever gonna change / Nothing's gettin' in my way / I will always . Where You Belong Lyrics: Yeah, yeah, yeah / Oh yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah / Yeah, yeah, yeah / Oh yeah, oh yeah, oh yeah / Yeah, yeah, yeah / Oh yeah, oh yeah.
Aug 26, Julianna Helms marked it as never-ever-says-big-brother. No Emily Giffin for me! May 18, Jennifer rated it liked it. I was excited to win a copy of this book as I had enjoyed Something Borrowed, and surprisingly, enjoyed its sequel, Something Blue, even more. They're smart, likeable, chick lit and she asks questions about moral behavior.
But Giffin's subsequent books haven't had as much pop. She tells decent stories, and I want to root for her characters. But I wish she would tune her writing up, and she has some bad habits and a few writerly tics she indulges here. In this novel, a successful TV producer finds I was excited to win a copy of this book as I had enjoyed Something Borrowed, and surprisingly, enjoyed its sequel, Something Blue, even more.
In this novel, a successful TV producer finds the teenaged daughter she placed for adoption on her doorstep, looking for answers. Her female characters have some conflict and complexity; her male characters are more one-dimensional. Here, there's the bad boy with the heart of gold who loved our heroine from the start, and the older, wealthy, ideal boyfriend who spoiler? The teenaged daughter has a new boyfriend of her own, a poised and sunny prep school boy with whom it's love at first sight and whose only flaw is his planned disappearance after graduation to college in the west.
Is it a throwback to say the men need a little work, here, to be more than foils to the women? Giffin has some idea of the importance of place, and also of music. As a former St. Louisan, I can vouch for her spelling "Eichelberger" correctly note to publishers: You can look online and find that everyone just west of the Mississippi loves Ted Drewes. Where you go to high school is a critical question in St. Louis, and honestly, I don't know enough about Chaminade to know if those guys would date a girl from DuBourg. But DuBourg being co-ed, usually students date each other Louis, let alone New York, where the producer lives.
In contrast to Giffin's books, check out early novels of Sarah Bird The Boyfriend School for a personality-filled dunk in 80s Austin with lots of well-loved name checks. Giffin has gotten into the habit of having a character or two from her previous novels appear and dispense wisdom, which could give some intriguing continuity, or could just be annoying, and it happens again here with the couple from Baby-Proof popping in. Two reality checks--can a prom dress be stuffed into a tote bag inconspicuously?
Those suckers are pretty bulky Also, when our teenage heroine tries on picturing herself performing oral sex on her new and perfect boyfriend, was anyone else a little creeped out? On a good note, I thought her sensitivity to opening an adoption and using positive adoption language was well done--when she didn't, it was because characters weren't thinking in those terms. She got at some of the complicated emotions that might spill into opening a closed adoption.
In the end, this was a fun light read with some realistic mixed feelings and unrealistic messages about romantic love. Emily Giffin, you've done better, and I think you can again. View all 4 comments. May 26, Dale Harcombe rated it it was ok. What to say about this novel? And it was the reason probably why I kept reading even when at times I was finding myself annoyed with the characters and their behaviour. It was one of those novels that struck me as inconsistent.
At times I was reading along happily but at other times wondering why I was reading it at all. Her behaviour when Kirby turns up was bizarre. Okay, so I am not adopted and maybe it looks different when you are, but still I just found Kirby hard in the way she treated her parents, who had been there for her since she was a baby.
Probably half my problem is I empathise and put myself in the situation. But then there were other characters that showed real love. It was an easy read and others may respond better to the main characters than I did.
Some of the minor characters are worth knowing.