They had two kids, a beautiful home and, seemingly, no problems. But the neighborhood was not privy to the ugly truth When he started to snap, Renan did not know a neighbor well enough to call. Instead she phoned a close friend who lived in a nearby town. This friend was out of town and did not get Renan's troubled messages in time. Even if she had, it is doubtful that she would have arrived at the Wills' home in time to prevent the murder.
Bob Wills shot his wife point blank as she attempted to hole up in the bathroom upstairs. The children were home at the time. The neighbors found out when the two kids ran screaming for their lives down the driveway of their exclusive dream home. When Lovenheim learned of this event he began to consider the value of neighbors knowing neighbors.
If Renan had enjoyed but one close friendship on Sandringham, would she be alive today? Thus Lovenheim decided to get to know his neighbors, one by one, and document this experience in book form. His intent was to get to know the neighbors in the most intimate setting possible Thus, he proposed a series of 'sleepovers' with several neighbors.
Stop once again and envision your response to this scenario: The guy down the street, of whom you know absolutely nothing, approaches you for a series of interviews about your life and your relationship to your neighborhood. He then tells you that he hopes to culminate this social experiment by sleeping over at your house!
Miraculously some of the neighbors acquiesced and Lovenheim got some material for this book. He focuses on his next door neighbor, Lou. Lou is a widower and former surgeon who has lived in his home since Lovenheim's boyhood on Sandringham.
As he gets to know the gruff octogenarian he learns that Lou is a bit more vulnerable than he appears. He misses his wife desperately and tries not to drink too much in the afternoons. When he has a health problem, Lou does not call on a neighbor but, instead, relies upon one of his adult children the closest living 20 minutes away. Lovenheim enjoys Lou's company and the two men gradually begin to develop a real friendship that continues after the sleepover takes place. From here the author goes on to profile a few more neighbors.
I believe the book would have been stronger if he had included more variety in his interviews. As it is, he concentrates upon 4 or 5 families.
Outwardly, their life was prosperous and picture perfect. Instead she phoned a close friend who lived in a nearby town. There is a maturity needed to fully comprehend the power of the simple concept of a neighborhood in which Peter Lovenheim has conveyed brilliantly. Inside I found three rolls of toilet paper and illustrated instructions detailing how to properly replace an empty roll. I had never even seen that knife before. I read it on a phone using the Amazon Kindle App and it was an exercise in frustration.
I am not exactly clear on how many 'sleepovers' Lovenheim actually talked his neighbors into having with him. However, his book does successfully make its point about the need for real community in our communities. One of the neighbors he does end up befriending is yet another physician-- a radiologist who is fighting a losing battle with breast cancer. Lovenheim's friendship with Patty DiNitto becomes a lifeline for her in her community of strangers.
Lovenheim enters her life just in time to help her as she enters her darkest days. And he enlists lonely Lou The result is a touching story about people who begin as awkward strangers who share nothing but a street address becoming true friends to one another as life deals many of them difficult blows. Reading In the Neighborhood made me, once again, feel extreme appreciation and gratitude for my own street -- a little piece of a Frank Capra movie set down in the midst of a densely populated inner ring suburb of Cleveland.
Yes I know exactly where to go if I need an egg. I have ample shelter if I accidentally lock myself out. We all have front porches and visit on them regularly. We wave and smile as neighbors walk their dogs past our little city front lawns. My daughter and her neighborhood friends have free rein, running through the yards chasing balls. Nobody yells at them. There is a block party that has been happening here annually for 50 years. Some of our neighbors have lived on our street since the mids. Many of their adult children do move back because they have never found a place they would rather be.
We know how to leave one another alone too. I do not miss the sterility of my childhood neighborhood and I purposely have sought areas that are eclectic, pedestrian friendly, unpretentious and I keep reading articles that indicate that the exurban era is ending and that many people share my attitudes toward the soul deadening generic sprawl.
I'll believe that when I see it on a large scale. But, for now, I think of my neighborhood as my little secret. With more books like this one, perhaps the secret will become revealed on a larger scale. Apr 16, Damien Roberts rated it liked it. This was okay, but it never goes anywhere too meaningful. Nov 08, Beth Kois rated it it was amazing Shelves: Read and reflect on the meaning of community.
Would be an excellent text for a Sociology course.
May 16, Stephanie rated it liked it Shelves: I had special interest in reading this because Peter Lovenheim is from my city, and this book takes place in said city in a very nearby town. Because of this, he sets out t Just a note: Because of this, he sets out to get to know his neighbors and create a community by asking them for a simple favor: Several neighbors accept, and Peter delves into their lives by sleeping over and witnessing their lives from the inside as well as interviewing them.
Lovenheim asks what it means to live amongst strangers and wonders what the consequences of that might be. With his sleepovers, he attempts to transform his street into a community. First things first, I enjoyed all the references to my hometown… that is always cool to see in a book, right? But I also thought his project was quite interesting. A lot of us do live amongst strangers. There is absolutely NO sense of community on my street which is really quite sad. This really is what many neighborhoods have turned into, which is what he is trying to change.
I felt as though I got to know these two neighbors and became intrigued by their stories and attached to their characters, though they are real people.
There are a few other neighbors as well who have their own interesting lives but are not featured as prominently. I felt this book was part memoir and part sociology book. It delves into a lot of research and questions about community, which was interesting, but not really my cup of tea. I definitely enjoyed the personal stories a lot more. I was happy to see that Lovenheim was in fact able to create a somewhat small sense of community, which was more than they ever had before, and that he began to accomplish his goal.
He used this new-found community to help Patti, which was really the best outcome of the whole story and project. All in all, this was an interesting book with a very intriguing concept.
I liked it but felt that it dragged a bit in those scientific parts, although I can see the necessity of it in the book and felt that it was very well researched. Apr 23, Joni Daniels rated it liked it. It left me with a sense of sadness. The author's current neighborhood experience sounds like little has changed there over the years from what I recall knowing as an outsider - I lived in the same town but a different area. We used to connect through carpools, school bus stops, paperboys, and lawn care. Now those things have been replaced, leaving It left me with a sense of sadness.
Now those things have been replaced, leaving people more isolated than ever. It sounded as if without the book served as a springboard to get to know his neighbors and without it and the tragedy that set it all in motion , it might never have happened. Overall, I was left feeling grateful that I've made a point of getting to know the people who live around me. And it laeft me wondering if the experiences changed the author in a fundamental way: Will he serve as a ocnnector for others?
The benefits certainly seem to outweigh the discomfort Sep 07, Marianna rated it it was amazing Shelves: An interesting look at the sociology of how we live as neighbors. I've often wondered what makes some neighbors "click" and end up with that ideal that everyone is after and what keeps others from never even finding out each other's names.
I've lived in three different places, with three different experiences.
In only one, a cul-de-sac of seven houses, did I feel that I knew all of my immediate neighbors and several of them well enough to ask for help when necessary. I've lived in my current hom An interesting look at the sociology of how we live as neighbors. I've lived in my current home just over two years and last week was the first time I have even seen one of my next door neighbors!
May 19, Heather rated it really liked it. I recommend this book to anyone and everyone. I would have given it 5 stars, but it dragged in a couple of small passages and I didn't love the way he closed the book. BUT - I think it's a really timely non-fiction about how we often know the people we meet on-line better than the folks living across the street.
But is the person across the country going to be there for you if you need some to watch your kid in an emergency, water your garden when you go on vaction, or give you a cup of sugar wh I recommend this book to anyone and everyone. But is the person across the country going to be there for you if you need some to watch your kid in an emergency, water your garden when you go on vaction, or give you a cup of sugar when you're in the middle of making cookies?
And conversely - do the folks in your neighborhood feel like they can ask you for a hand? Apr 08, Lisa rated it really liked it. I really enjoyed this book. I purchased it on the first day that it was available in the bookstore, and I would have finished it later that day had I no other commitments. It's very readable and thought-provoking. Whether you live in the Rochester area or not, this book strikes a nerve and engenders some critical questions: How does my neighborhood compare to the one described in the book?
What can we do to make every neighborhood a more neighborly place? Aug 13, Bud Smith rated it liked it. In this book, a Guy attempts to do the right thing and get to know his neighbors by actively entering into their homes via sleep overs. Then he tries to really get to know them My fucking neighbors open my mail and throw it in the hallway. That's what happened when I ordered day of the Jakal off Amazon. Motherfuckers threw it in the middle of the hallway.
Dec 09, Laura rated it it was amazing. I loved it Partly because this story was so close to my neighborhood. But also because it's a true,sweet story of a guy who wants to know his neighbors and be a good neighbor. It would be nice to being some of that neighborliness back to life. Feb 08, Susan rated it liked it Shelves: Funny, and would be a good coffee table book. I was interested in this book because of the website, which does hilarious commentary on each entry. There wasn't any of that here, just a couple of explanations.
I wish there had been more, or at least witty observations about each note; it would have made it more interesting and substantial.
As such, it was little more than a straight-up collection of notes--still fun, but not much of a book. Dec 17, Madhu N rated it really liked it. Some the quotes are quite funny. Unfortunately some of it are true. One thing was that the kindle version was not as clear, so had to skip those sections. Whatever i read brough a chuckle everytime. Light read on a stressful day! Oct 05, Caroline rated it it was ok. Another book that can primarily be found on Facebook and Tumblr now. I didn't enjoy it, mostly because these notes are in their original format and most of them are hardly legible.
Jun 13, Michele Brack rated it it was amazing Shelves: Dec 25, Angie rated it did not like it. Some print was so small I could not read. The notes were not particularly funny and I found them to be very repetitive. Feb 02, Rhonda rated it liked it Shelves: This book was originally inspired by passiveaggressivenotes. Many of these notes were written in response to noisy neighbors, stolen lunches, messy roommates and my favorite ones between lovers, family and friends. I absolutely LOVE these kinds of books that reveal other people's notes and letters.
I find it so interesting to read and this book is filled with some hilarious and some just plain creepy notes. The amount of hostility generated by such simple acts really makes me wonder about some people. Some of these notes must have been written by some seemingly crazy people because their comments to others are things I wouldn't catch myself even thinking about, let alone telling someone else. Therein lies the beauty of a book like this: Sep 19, Krystina Ramos rated it really liked it. The collection showcases insight, humor, and art of petty notes. The notes are written tersely, varying in politeness and hostility with the occasional sight of profanity and caricatures, to express the feelings the composers won't say bluntly and directly to their roommates, coworkers, or passersby.
Occasionally, Miller will insert her own commentary to echo the readers' thoughts. Although the book is a light read, I found it to be very enjoyable. There were many times I laughed out loud at a particular individual's expense like the note taker addresses a milk-thief and reveals that is was breast milk. Miller brings to light the darker nature of communication and language that pervades everyday life by arranging each note in a creative collage in which the original media is maintained while the content and levels of passive aggressive behavior are juxtaposed.
Together these notes reveal a collective neurosis, exposing each composer's unique voice. Jan 29, Arminzerella rated it liked it Shelves: Kerry Miller started collecting and posting passive aggressive notes on her blog which became wildly popular. Soon people were sending her their own notes, her collection grew, and eventually it became this book. The notes range from passive aggressive to truly aggressive in tone with lots of sarcasm heaped on in between.
Some of these concerns are petty, some are hilarious, some are irresolvable and irreconcilable. This is a great book for browsing or reading straight through.
I have to admit to having penned a few of these types of notes myself. Imagine the serenity, the bliss. Dec 29, carrietracy rated it did not like it Shelves: Yeah, the notes weren't passive aggressive. Sure, a few of them were, but not the majority of them, which sort of defeats the purpose. And most of them weren't funny. The ones with some explanation attached were a bit better I guess. Some were so poorly spelled and punctuated as to be nearly indecipherable, which coming from me is saying a lot, since I spent 10 years of my life reading what elementary school children write.
It honestly never should Yeah, the notes weren't passive aggressive. It honestly never should have been issued in that format. I read it on a phone using the Amazon Kindle App and it was an exercise in frustration. You couldn't blow up the notes because they are images, not text. So you have to click on each note, then zoom on it, then if you try to blow it up further, the text becomes fuzzy and you can't read it anyway. Had I not been trapped on a plane studiously avoiding making eye contact with my husband so that he didn't hand me our toddler traveling as "lap baby" I never would have kept going.
Mar 08, Harris rated it liked it. I've been a big follower of magazines and blogs that publish found and submitted pieces of the contemporary human existence, and Passive Aggressive Notes seems to be one of the main standards. I always enjoy, as a writer, the opportunity to see the viewpoints and voices of people in the "real world. Unlike Found, or PostSecret, though, these notes are really pretty one note ha , and I don't think I'd reread them.
It was funny, though, that the copy I read, snatched up from a library book sale and completely falling apart, came with it's own compliment of post-it-notes from a previous reader, commenting and expanding on various finds and relating it to their own life. That was definitely a cool bonus! May 21, Atlantis rated it liked it. This was a cute quick read that opens your eyes to the reality that sometimes we are just not as good communicators as we think we are LOL Brought back memories of college, etc too.
One constructive critique about the book though is that the e-format is difficult to read. If you have an older kindle Gen. Maybe on the DX but don't have one so I can't say for sure. I read it on my iPad mini and had to click on each photo and enlarge it This was a cute quick read that opens your eyes to the reality that sometimes we are just not as good communicators as we think we are I read it on my iPad mini and had to click on each photo and enlarge it to read it but there were a couple of notes I couldn't read because the picture would blur to much when I made it bigger making the writing unreadable.
No, I don't need my eyes checked! I appreciate that Ms. The following day, the girls try to rent the adjacent house to the Radners', but do not have enough money to pay for it. Teddy, finding an opportunity where he can be valued, offers to help them and suggests a successful way to afford the rent. That night, they throw their first party. Horrified to learn they are a sorority, Mac and Kelly ask Shelby to keep the noise down. Mac and Kelly report them to Dean Gladstone Lisa Kudrow , but she is unable to intervene since they are an independent sorority and she fears that shutting it down may lead to a public relations nightmare regarding sexism.
The couple contact Shelby's father Kelsey Grammer , but he fails to control the situation. Feeling outraged, the girls constantly haze the Radners. Mac, Kelly, Jimmy, and Paula retaliate by causing a bed bug infestation in the house, resulting in a fumigation just in time for the Baier's visit. The girls plan to raise money by selling weed at the school's tailgate and eliminating all the other competition by getting all the other weed dealers on campus arrested.
Teddy strongly objects and the girls vote to kick him out of the house. Spurned, Teddy decides to join forces with the Radners to take down the sorority. They all go to the tailgate event to steal the weed. Teddy distracts the girls while Mac steals their weed supply. Shelby catches Mac, but he manages to escape. As gratitude for Teddy's help, Mac and Kelly allow him to stay at their place until he decides what he wants to do with his life, where he grows closer to them.
In retaliation for the tailgate, the girls switch Mac's and Kelly's phone numbers with their own, leading Kelly to become paranoid, and Mac to end up in Sydney, Australia. When he returns, Mac and Kelly find that they have been robbed and the sorority is selling their stuff and has spray-painted "Kappa Nu Steals From You" in the house. This causes the Baiers to threaten to pull out from the deal, while Mac and Kelly also reflect if they have been good parents.
When the realtor of the sorority house reveals the girls are late on their payments, the Baiers give Mac and Kelly a day to get them out of the house. The girls find an eviction notice on their door. With barely any money to support themselves, Shelby says the only way they can win is to abandon their morals and resort to having a basic frat party with more sex appeal. They advertise the party to everyone on campus, leading to more people showing up at the house.
Jimmy and Paula sneak into the party while Teddy tries to shut off the power. Teddy gets into the electrical box, but the girls have a backup power source. While Jimmy ends up getting roofied, Shelby enters the Radners' house to cut off their phones. Mac and Teddy chase her to the garage, but get locked inside. They break out by using airbags from an old car. Disgusted by how much they have degraded themselves, Beth and Nora decide to quit the sorority and blame Shelby for the disaster, leading the other girls to leave as well. Mac and Kelly feel sorry for the girls after hearing that Shelby only formed the sorority so she could make friends since back in high school she had none and was constantly bullied and rejected.
They also realize that they too are setting a terrible example for their daughter with their behavior in ruining Kappa Nu by trying to evict the girls so they could allow the Baiers to move in to their old home. Relating to her own experience in being rejected through high school, Kelly helps the girls mend their friendship and to go back to what they believe in. The girls then kick the frat boys out and have a more empowering party.
The success of being the first sorority to throw a party brings girls from Phi Lambda and other sororities who want to pledge for Kappa Nu.