Time and time again research shows us how powerful this tactic can be on a human being. For our purposes, this is confirmation that our minds are powerful tools that can take us places as sacred as healing the body. Happiness and fulfillment are choices as close as your thoughts. I believe that living consciously can certainly affect your interpretation of life and even help you with choices that will make your life more fulfilling. Choose your thoughts carefully and mindfully cultivate them. It will serve you well. This site is not intended to provide and does not constitute medical, legal, or other professional advice.
Your stories and your wisdom are just as meaningful as mine. Click here to read more. About Sarah Stevenson Sarah Stevenson, a. See a typo, an inaccuracy, or something offensive? Please contact us so we can fix it! Did you enjoy this post? Please share the wisdom: You may also enjoy: Get wisdom in your inbox Join the Tiny Buddha list for daily or weekly blog posts, exclusive content, and promotions. The problem is that those images and feelings can be extremely strong. In fact, I was guilty of it myself throughout my twenties. He was a recent transplant from Florida to my little town in the Pacific Northwest.
I met Hugo through my circle of paddling pals, so we went out a few times and hit the river together. Getting to know him, I discovered he came from an extremely abusive past. He hated his old man and, as far as I could figure, with good reason. I also heard Hugo talking about his employer. Last I heard, Hugo was in Australia, still fighting the same issues with authority figures i. This is a case of repeating patterns caused by a powerful subconscious emotional charge created in the past.
The most effective way for Hugo to break his repeating pattern of misery is to go into the subconscious mind and heal his emotional world. Emotional vulnerability is at its peak before the critical faculty of the mind is developed. As you may recall,that takes place in very early childhood, when the subconscious mind is completely exposed.
We enter this world as pure vessels, wide open and absorbing life like a sponge. This includes the good, the bad and the ugly. Hey, nobody said life was fair. The stork settles a few of our darlings into lovely, cushy feather beds. Others get dumped into this world under absolutely horrendous circumstances. Wherever we land is where our journey begins, like it or not, and our emotional charges develop at the whim of our surroundings. Your suffering is not your fault. You did not create your problems, dysfunction, or disease. You are only responding to circumstances at your given level of awareness.
They were also responding to their charges at their given level of awareness. Take it as far back as you need to go. Who is ultimately responsible? You may not believe it now, but suffering is actually what paves the road to the Divine. We inherit all sorts of stuff from out family: We never asked for any of it. We also inherit from our ancestry through the subconscious mind, including emotional charges.
She later married a guy named Smythe, who ironically or maybe not so ironically resembled her dad. Her mother had three kids, all girls. She had three kids, all boys. Listing the similarities between those two would take all day. For some, inherited ancestral traits can skip a generation. I have an acquaintance whose grandfather was a bit of a bigwig powerbroker, married three times. My acquaintance never met him and resented growing up in his shadow. His level of influence was born into him. The more he has accepted himself and his pedigree, the more his destiny of success has unfolded.
We inherit traits from our families. And what does that mean?
It means we also inherit suffering. Some of our suffering is caused by an unusual subconscious connection to our heritage.
Understanding this possibility opens the potential for subconscious healing to a whole new level. A young woman came to see me for recurring anxiety attacks that were happening at an accelerated and stronger rate. They exploded into her life whenever she crossed some ambiguous line of going from a romantic to a committed relationship. It had ruined several previous relationships. She was now involved with a man she genuinely loved. The attacks were becoming so frequent and so strong that she could barely function. This was in the early days of my practice, back when I took more of an analytical approach to subconscious healing.
Over the course of a few sessions, we probed into the events of her childhood and had some initial satisfactory success. However, the anxiety attacks still came back, albeit with less frequency and intensity. In conversation, I asked about her parents, and that led to the topic of their divorce. The split happened rather abruptly, and it was rather grueling on her mother.
Maybe she picked up emotional charges from her mom while she was pregnant. By the next session, her anxiety attacks gone… permanently. This creates internal conflict and puts us at odds with ourselves and our world, which is — you guessed it —a powerful subconscious emotional charge. We go back generations. I need to beat to my own free-spirited drum. For me, becoming a lawyer would be a straight shot to hell.
Families can be blown apart by adherence to family conditioning, especially if it supersedes genuine needs. How many of us know someone who has gone into the family business and hated every minute of it? How many of us have been crushed by family disapproval over something we were genuinely passionate about? If we are to grow and mature into the people we are meant to be in this life, we need to listen to the voice within. It may or may not be in accordance with family approval.
Blind adherence to family conditioning, at the expense of yourself, can produce a lifetime of suffering. Because each of us projects the circumstances of emotional charges into our lives, many societal values are tainted with the spewing of these charges. It can be a vicious cycle that propagates even more suffering. Collective values get filtered through the charges and chattering minds of millions. Ideals behind a societal system can easily be polluted into the perpetuation of things like needless war and excessive corporate greed. As each of us goes, so goes society.
In order to transform our world, we must transform ourselves on the inside. As we do, our values will shift. Emphasis will then be placed more on the quality of life and less on the trappings of the conscious and subconscious mind and unresolved emotion. Talk about a runaway freight train. Most kids nowadays are more familiar with some flat, illuminated screen than members of their own extended families.
We are absolutely hammered every day with electronic media. The media tells us what to do, how to be, who to be with, where to spend our money, and that violence is acceptable. And, boy, is it effective. When we watch TV, surf the web, or play on our phones, we go into a mild trance state. This allows images, sounds , and emotions to come right in and attach themselves to the framework of our belief system. It is creating and shaping our era. Again, this is neither good nor bad. A couple years ago I visited India, a country steeped in the belief of reincarnation.
You can always do it in your next life! Can suffering originate in a past life? However, entertaining the notion in subconscious healing provides some enormous benefits. It allows clients to step completely outside of the context and mental framework of their present-day lives and gain an entirely new perspective on their own suffering.
There was no logical explanation for the incredible pain he felt in his body. When he finally arrived at my door, he had been through numerous examinations and a treasure chest full of medications. Between his work with me and another local alternative health care professional, he was able to heal about 90 percent of the pain over the course of a year. His biggest breakthrough came during a past-life regression session.
The experience gave him the opportunity to completely reframe the context of his life. It was absolute freedom. Somehow, in the context of that liberty, he was able to free an enormous amount of physical pain. The connection between his stored subconscious emotion and physical pain was released. As previously mentioned, emotional charges can enter the subconscious mind before the critical faculty of the mind is formed in early childhood.
Charges can also enter when the critical faculty is let down. This can occur in times of shock and excessive trauma. Examples may include sudden physical injury, surgery, or receiving unexpected shocking news.
The critical faculty relaxes, allowing negative emotional information into the subconscious mind. Sometimes, understanding the cause of an emotional charge can powerfully accelerate subconscious healing. However, every now and then, you can psychologize, analyze, and snoop around for sources of pain without ever finding the source. Ironically, we come into this life alone, and we go out alone.
We must also face every life transition by ourselves. Sooner or later, everyone gets kicked out of the nest. Imagine a young man whose father was not around when he was born. He was left unsupervised and alone all day. Two things happened when he matured into an adult. First, he developed incredible independence and resolve.
He could take care of himself in any situation. The subconscious emotional charges he carried from his youth produced absolute terror when he was left alone. He eventually became very successful in a business that required extensive travel. However, he had multiple lovers stashed in different cities, just like the food and money he used to hide in the woods.
He was never alone. This one is a biggie because most of us get at least one helping of it. None of us get enough love. We enter this world completely dependent on someone else, physically and emotionally, twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. It truly does take a village to raise a child. Add another kid or two into the mix and forget about it. We grow up competing for love and attention. Throwing some parental neglect and abuse on this ravenous need can produce some deeply seated emotional charges. Unworthiness can be expressed in a variety of ways but tends to gravitate into two extremes: This is not only limited to jobs and careers; it can also spill into relationships.
Examples may include the workaholic executive who is always vying for supervisor approval or someone who continues to sabotage seemingly healthy intimate relationships. The underlying subconscious message is the same: Life is a never-ending parade of hanging on and letting go, letting go and hanging on. In fact, to be happy, healthy, and well adjusted, we need to learn the art of letting go.
At some point in life, we discover that being human means being brokenhearted. We love and become emotionally attached. When we lose someone or something we love, it can be very painful, resulting in deep grief. It can be over anything: It arrives in waves over a period of time. It can take weeks, months, or even years. The timeframe is different for everyone. A variety of emotions are experienced during the grieving process. They may include shock, denial, sadness, loneliness, depression, anger, and at some point hopefully, acceptance,a decision to move on, forgiveness, and peace.
This can be due to lack of awareness or flat-out refusal to experience difficult emotions. In either case, the suppression of emotion will create an emotional charge in the subconscious mind. There are times when life can be difficult. Grieving is one of them. In the framework of spiritual growth , grieving is not a time to shy away from the work that needs to done. Perhaps you feel stress in your stomach, rage in your head, or sadness in your heart.